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The three of us have that hanger-onner of a virus that\u2019s going around. The past two nights, I\u2019ve coughed myself to sleep in the basement guest room, and as anyone who\u2019s ever coughed herself to sleep can tell you, it\u2019s slow going. I use the time to think about pressing issues like how much I like the taste of original Ricola, or how it could be that\u00a0Alice<\/a>\u2019s feet smell so exactly like buttered popcorn, or how much I prefer haunted, unsmiling, True Detective<\/i>-era Matthew McConaughey<\/a> over other Matthew McConaugheys, even with the long hair that makes him a ringer for my uncle. Or, if I\u2019m really on my game, I use the time to write in my head. Two nights ago, for instance, I found myself thought-writing about endive: about how much I hated it as a kid, about how much my dad loved it, about how he was always buying it and shoving it into salads when I wasn\u2019t looking, about how fast he would have jumped to get himself around our dinner that night: bread, cheese, and Jennifer McLagan\u2019s Belgian Endive Bathed in Butter.<\/p>\n

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In a couple of weeks, on December 7th, it will have been twelve years since my dad died. He\u2019s now been gone for a third of my life. I\u2019m glad to be able to say that, at this point, I don\u2019t think about him a lot, and that I remember only faint outlines of what it felt like to grieve him. It feels like progress. But there must be some subterranean part of me that doesn\u2019t forget, because every late November or early December, sometimes even on the 7th itself, he shows up. Maybe I notice the picture of him in the front hall for the first time in months, or I read a book to June and suddenly hear him thirty years back, reading it to me. Brandon blows his nose in the next room over, and because his nose has started to honk like a migrating goose, like my dad\u2019s did, I forget for an instant who is on the other side of the wall. Or maybe I eat endive for dinner and then lie there in the dark, paging through one of the photo albums I keep in my head. My mother tells me that the same thing happens to her. We call and swap pictures.<\/p>\n

I remember worrying as a kid, when I heard that someone I knew had died, that they might come back to haunt me, that maybe they would have something important to say and would choose me as the person to tell. From the bathroom of the house I lived in as a kid, I could look into the mirror above the sink and see behind me into the living room, and I was sure that, looking up sometime from spitting out my toothpaste, I\u2019d see a ghost there. I consoled myself by eventually deciding that, if the dead person in question really cared about me, they\u2019d have the courtesy, at least, to find a way to come back that wouldn\u2019t scare the crap out of me. They\u2019d be subtle about it. Anyway, I didn\u2019t need to worry: nothing so Unsolved Mysteries<\/i> has ever happened to me. But I still think about it sometimes, especially at this time of year. My dad has his ways.<\/p>\n

I spent a lot of time worrying about those ways, really. He loved cheese and butter and pat\u00e9 and meat, everything that was bad for you in the ’80s and ’90s. He had a substantial gut. It was irresponsible<\/i>! Of course, none of that is what did him in: as it turned out, behind his gut was a tumor the size of a half-gallon jug of milk, and kidney cancer doesn\u2019t care what you eat. Still, it would take some years before I would think to, or dare to, bake eight endives in almost a stick of butter, and before I could appreciate butter in any way like he did.<\/p>\n

Well! At this point in the post, I guess I should state very clearly, and unsexily, that I received Jennifer McLagan\u2019s Bitter: A Taste of the World\u2019s Most Dangerous Flavor, with Recipes<\/a><\/i>from its publisher, as a free, unsolicited review copy. And that I loved it immediately, not only because I like bitter flavors – Brussels sprouts, Campari – but also because, as my friend Brandi <\/a>puts it, Jennifer McLagan “really goes there” in everything she does<\/a>. Her books celebrate some of the most basic elements of food – and in particular, the elements that no one likes to talk about, like fat and offal. Bitter<\/i> is her latest, out only two months now, and the recipe for Belgian Endive Bathed in Butter was the first I dog-eared.<\/p>\n

I conquered my aversion to endive a long time ago, but even if that weren\u2019t the case, I think it would be hard to find this endive less than lovable. It starts with butter browning in a skillet, to which you add whole endives, turning them to coat, and then lemon juice, and then you cover the whole thing, slide it into a low oven, and two hours (two hours!) later, you open the oven triumphantly to find the endives caramelized, as soft and floppy as wet rags – tasty wet rags, reeeeally tasty wet rags – in a brothy sauce of their own juices, enriched and mellowed with butter, brightened with citrus. You could serve them next to a pork chop or a piece of roasted chicken, but we ate them on a tired, coughing Thursday night, with just bread and an aged goat cheese that I had picked up earlier in the day. And then we slept, or rather didn\u2019t sleep for a while, and then sleep came, and then morning came, and then there were leftovers.<\/p>\n

P.S. Because of you, Delancey<\/i> has made it to the final round of the Goodreads Choice Awards. If you would, please consider casting a vote again<\/a>. Thank you.<\/p>\n

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